Q: Don't you see classic wear as more respectful and classy than modern so-called trendy wear? Do you think modern fashion and make up wear are morally degrading?
A: Modern women are defining themselves beautiful by what they see the idols, celebrities, wear and behave in the media. They make the connection of revealing wear and makeup to the celebrity status of those women and come to the wrong beliefs about the definition of beauty. Of course it's not that simple to blame entirely on the media and the rich, since even at middle and high school age, they see the popular girls with all their excessive everyday makeup and most of the time revealing wear. And their wrong view about the definition of beauty is again reinforced by this. Thus, the girls and women themselves try to not only wear revealing wear and makeup to imitate the rich and popular but also to fit into the society that kind of expects them to be beautiful just because they are born as females. And I guess the clothes themselves are a problem too--what with all the sizes and fashion, it has become fashionable to show a "hint" of sexiness by little bit of cleavage and/or leg. Of course if left to the women themselves, they might have chose a little bit more modest cuts and designs to only show a small hint of sexiness but because we're not the dressmakers, that little "hint" became interpreted as BIG "hint". Thus, it has become hard to find good looking modest clothes. Every girl who wanted something modest has gone through this so much every time she shops that she compromises her level of modest to get some clothes, thinking "ohh! it's only a 'hint' of cleavage! ohh! it's only 1 inch less than normal hem size." Well, those times are fine and dandy but sooner or later, before she realizes, she had compromises on her level of modesty A LOT and bought clothes that are revealing. The makeup is all chalked up to the movie heroines, celebrities, models, etc. I mean have you ever saw them on tv or pics, w/o crystal clear skin? Well, apparently, society doesn't realize that that's not really the norm for hte women skins. But the society has made it norm so that women now think that something is wrong w/their skin if its not all in one shade of color! That gets teh excessive foundation and concealers. Rest of eyeshadows, lipcolors etc are to distract from the apparently "uncommon" uneven shades on the skin. At this point, hte makeup which was supposed to enhance our beauty, just manages to MASK our beauty and TRANSFORM (u have heard this word many times on tv for makeup commercials!) ur skin to "perfect" shade of color. Modest make up is easy though---since we can choose the colors to play up the eyes or lips etc. However, while it might be easy, it can be quickly confusing--since modest makeup differs with every woman and some might think their excessive makeup is norm while others think minimal makeup or natural looking makeup is modest. So, unless there are hard defined rules (which are still hard to MAKE considering the many differences in women and their skin tones, etc), a little modest could become very lurid and revealing. You asked me in the mail about products for women, etc that could make them look respectful. Well, for clothing, there are shopping websites you can find by googling "modest clothes". You can get almost everything modest from modest everyday wear to modest swimwear and evening wear. And they are most often fashionable too keeping up with the current trends. But instore brands in malls, or clothing stores are harder because for me, one brand can seem mostly modest but for another women who has different body shape, it might not be as modest. So, for instore ones, you just have to go w/the girl and make her wear it to find out if they are modest enough. More often than not, the clothes might seem modest on rack but if you wear it though, they might be a "bit" lower or higher than what you wanted. So trying them on in fitting rooms is the best way to judge their modesty. But before shopping though, I really suggest you make rules about the length from ur neck where the cut off point for the top to begin so we don't compromise on tops modest just because it seems to be modest but only a "little" bit lower than imagined. Same goes for skirts too. Modest clothing would be lot easier to find and buy if we make some hard rules about our bodies and the cut off points to not show cleavage or some leg. As for makeup, any make up can be made to look modest or excessive--it just depends on the women how she wears it and what she considers as modest. But whether the makeup is harmful or harmless is another matter because of the chemicals in them. I just suggest the mineral makeup and going for natural or minimal look instead of party makeup look. Well, this has been a wonderful question! Glad to discuss it ^__^