Q: i dont know why but i just feel really depresed like im not good enough for anybody & im never going to be. like i've been trying my whole life & still I cant be what i want to be. i dont know who i am & i dont know who im going to be i have no clue what to do . . i felt as if i was ready for highschool but all of a sudden i realized im not im not good enough for the people i want to make friends with.. Theyre going to look perfect everyday , & i'll try.. but im probably not. & i feel like EVEN girls that dress in stitches & urban planet, look better then me i feel so like depressed . please help. ? I dont know what i want i dont know what i need . i just feel like crap . .. :( *slaps you back* ;P lol shutup biotch.
A: People who always look perfect and popular are meant to make every other girl feel horrible. I know this sounds SO stupid, but read the twilight series. Bella Swan is a character that every girl can really relate to, and she made me feel so much better about myself. If you've watched all of the Harry Potter movies, you will realize Hermione Granger isn't a girl who cares about how "beautiful" she looks today, or how many friends she has. Sometimes when you look in the mirror and think to yourself you are so pretty, you could end up staring at yourself and constantly thinking how pretty you are. I've seen that happen; from feeling like crap, to feeling like you are prettier than Jessica Alba in just two days. Guys don't go after the beautiful, over confident, too-out-going, popular, airheaded beauty-queens of high school (the good guys at least). Try being yourself and wearing the make-up and clothes and hair that looks good on YOU, not some other girl, or "the fashion". As for friends, it doesn't matter what people think; that's what everyone says, BUT IT'S TRUE! A year ago I felt EXACTLY what you were feeling. EXACTLY. I learned what makes me look good, feel good, and I stopped trying to get the stupid popular girls to like me. I only made a fool of myself when I tried to be friends with them. They're not really "popular", they're just girls who think they look good, have confidence, and don't care what the "nerdy" people think of them. That's all they are. They think you're a loser if you don't have a party or somewhere to go to on friday night, or if you have overprotective parents, if you don't straighten your hair and wear make-up, or if you don't shop at Hollister. Am I right? I learned to say, "I don't freaking CARE anymore!!!!!" And I just started learning little things every day that set me apart from other girls and make me feel and be really pretty. When I felt ugly, I looked no different then when I feel beautiful. It's not your eyes, it's your mind. Don't feel like crap. You might just be feeling over whelmed with all of the things that are suppose to happen in high school. Who CARES if you don't get the guy the hottest girl gets. You'll get someone that IS your type, and thinks those "popular" people are mean too. Doesn't mean he's a loser. Try not to look at your downsides, and look at what you have that others don't; not necessarily the cute hair, but the cute personality, and shyness, or something. Hold your head up high, and realize you are so beautiful inside, and out. :)